I don’t consider myself to be a blogger. Sure. This is technically a blog but the thing is that I don’t really care how many hits I have nor do I attempt to build my readership. I don’t even have Google Analytics. I think of this more as an online journal where I share thoughts with people I already know. Sort of like mass conversation and idea sharing. I don’t get to spend as much time as I would like having deep conversations with all of my friends so this is a way of doing that even when we can’t get together in person.
That said, yesterday I posted a sort of year-end recap. My dear friend, Miz Chartreuse texted me asking if I was participating in the 30-day Challenge. I didn’t even really know what that was. I Googled it and ironically, my post was the topic for December 1st. Apparently there are various 30-day challenges, two of which the lovely Miz Chartreuse is participating in on her Tumblr and her own website, the first being more personal and a sort of gratitude journal. The second is really intended for serious bloggers in order to increase posts and thusly, readership. Since I’m not a real blogger, the second one didn’t necessarily speak to me but I considered the first since it was more about outwardly appreciating those around you and self reflection which if you can’t tell by now, I’m a big fan of. I read through each of the 30-day challenges and while I don’t really have something to say on all of them plus it’d be rather time consuming to do a new one each day, I thought that I would just write a little something about the ones I felt I enjoyed the most, perhaps a few every couple of days. (Full disclosure: I was going to do them all right now but when I got going they were much longer than I anticipated so I’ll probably split them into a few posts.)
The idea is to write a letter to each person as suggested. So here goes:
Your best friend:
I have several people I would consider to be best friends. I understand that by using the word “best” it implies that one in particular stands out but the truth is that I feel I have friends that reflect various sides of my personality. In addition, I think that each of these people have such admirable and amazing qualities that sometimes are so different yet noteworthy.
I would definitely consider my Aunt Teddi to be one of my best friends among other roles such as Godmother, second mom (after my grandmother), and mentor. Over the last ten years or so, she has been a consistent confidant and someone I can (and do) always turn to in both the best and worst of times. No one has a better understanding of the struggles I’ve had to overcome throughout my life and no one else has been there every single step of the way with nothing but words of encouragement and unwavering faith in me. If you’ve ever wondered where I get my (sometimes brutal) honesty, hilariousness, or outgoing nature, look no further. My aunt has often told me the story about how when I was growing up, my grandmother used to say to her about me, “She is just like us”. And it’s true. Where my grandmother left off, my aunt has picked up beautifully. Without both of them, my life would have gone in a totally different direction.
Mike Chorvat:
Recently Mike and I were having drinks at Revolution and I commented that he was one of my best friends. His response: I don’t have any best friends. I was immediately offended by this comment. I told him so and he explained further. “I don’t like to say that I have ‘best friends’ because in the past, I would refer to people as ‘best friends’ and then we’d end up not speaking after a while. I want us to be friends forever.” Fair enough. I like to say that I’m the only person he tells the entire truth to because…well, you can’t lie to this face! Keeding. But in seriousness, I love this kid. We can call each other names, be brutally honest and never once place judgement and I think we both appreciate that about one another. When I’m being an asshole, he’ll tell me so and vice versa. To me, true friends call you out on your bullshit—not sit around and allow you to do stupid things.
Ben Winge:
Interestingly, since Ben and I have become roommates, I think we talk less than we used to although this is probably my fault. When I’m at home, I’m in decompression mode. I just want to sit and zone out or I’m taking care of a hundred things. That said, I definitely consider Ben to be one of my best friends. A couple of years ago, I was horribly sick and needed to go to the emergency room. Not one of my friends—not even my roommate at the time, would take me. Ben drove to my house, picked me up, sat with me in the hospital ON A FRIDAY NIGHT for 7 HOURS! I was miserable and not very good company but through all of this, he managed to make me laugh. I tease him for his harem of ladies, but you know why all these chicks fall for him? Cause he’s pretty much the nicest guy ever (next to Ryan Powers but that’s another story).
Luis Rodriguez:
SmoothLou. Oh deary. Where do I begin? On one rainy night about 3 years ago, my old roommate brought me over to this man’s house to record a podcast and we became fast friends. This is the only person that finds my obnoxious sarcasm endearing. To this I say, he’s on drugs. While SmoothLou has definitely had his challenges to overcome, he is always (cheese alert) sunshine on a cloudy day. I have yet to meet the person that says, “That SmoothLou character. I just don’t get it.” An immensely talented and hilarious person that I am proud to call my friend. And he is very old-timey and whimsical to boot.
Charlotte Mutesha:
The ever lovely and radiant, Miz Chartreuse. This lady is fiercely loyal, loving and talented (in addition to being simply fierce, flawless and fabulous). What I love most about her is that she constantly challenges convention and isn’t afraid to stand up for herself. She is confident in who she is and you’ll never hear her make an unwarranted mean comment about somebody. I even wrote a blog about her because she inspires me to be more outwardly loving to others and for this I am very appreciative.
There are so many others, but in the interest of time, I will just quickly recognize some other people that I really love and admire for various reasons but mainly, for being stand-up human beings in general and for inspiring me in so many ways:
Sean Keen, Dan Wade, Scott, Matthew Perrone, Antony, Shakeel, Angelique, Sam, Ryan Powers, Phil Kosch, Adam Bahr, Rob, Heidi, Alex and Amy…this list could go on but let’s just say that if we are friends on the regular, I think you’re pretty great.
Letter 2: Your Crush
Dear Billy Crudup, Jon Hamm, JFK Jr (when he was alive), and other very beautiful men that make me wanna shoop,
Thank you for being lovely to look at. In my mind, we have engaged in some very intimate moments which I will always cherish.
Love always,
CC
Letter 3: Your parents
Go to hell. I am who I am in spite of you, not because of you.
That about sums it up.